“5 Million Ways to Kill a C.E.O.”


I was sitting in Panera, minding my own business.

Two women (probably in their 60s) sat at the table next to me. I wasn’t paying much attention to them. I was updating my Facebook status, when I heard one of them say transgenders, then it seemed like I couldn’t not hear them.

One of them said she didn’t want transgenders next to her daughter. Then one or the other of them started referencing scripture.

This transgender stuff, one said. What about US that have to LIVE with that? What about us that have to look at that? I’m not sure what exactly she thought she was having to look at. Did she mean the genitals of transgender folks? Why in the world would this woman be looking at the genitals of any stranger? She may not realize this, but if she is going through the world trying to look at the genitals of strangers, she is behaving inappropriately.

I don’t want to SEE that! one said. Then why, I wonder, is she craning her neck to see what’s going on in a restroom stall she’s not occupying? I don’t know where she’s been peeing, but every restroom I’ve been in since elementary school has had three walls and a door. Outside of Mardi Gras in New Orleans, I’ve never once in my (sometimes wild) life accidentally seen a stranger’s genitals. Where is this woman hanging out that genitals are just being waved in her face? And can we assume she doesn’t mind seeing the genitals of cisgender folks?

Then the women started talking about choice, something along the lines of Now that they’ve made this choice, and I just couldn’t listen anymore. I was going to lose my shit, but I didn’t know what to say to these women or how to talk to them in a way they might understand. (And please note, this all happened in California, not North Carolina.)

So I hit play on whatever Insane Clown Posse song was up on Youtube (I’d been doing research, folks…I may be many things, but I am not a Juggalo Juggalette.) I quickly decided that wasn’t really what I wanted to hear and typed in The Coup. (To learn more about The Coup, read the post I wrote about their song “Ride the Fence” here: http://www.rubbertrampartist.com/2015/12/15/ride-the-fence/.) When the video for “5 Million Ways to Kill a C.E.O.” (which I’d never seen) came up, I shoved in my earbuds and gave it a listen. Oh, the blessed sanity of class struggle.

Party Music

I share the video with you today, in the event you have to block out unpalatable noise while minding your own business.

After the woman left and I was researching for this post, I found a Trans 101 page on the Sylvia Rivera Law Project website (http://srlp.org/resources/trans-101/). I wish I’d had a printed copy to hand to those women. I wonder if it would have made any difference.

About Blaize Sun

I live in my van, which makes me a rubber tramp. I like to see places I’ve never seen before, and I like to visit the places I love again and again.

I like to play with color. I make collages and hemp jewelry and cheerful winter hats. I take photographs and (sometimes, not in a long time) write poetry. All of those things make me an artist.

Although I like to spread joy and to make people laugh, my wit can be sharp. I try to stay positives in all situations, to find the goodness in all people. But I often feel compelled to point out bullshit when I smell it.

I like to have fun, to dance, to eat yummy food, to sit by a fire and share stories. I want to know what people hold dear and important, not just make surface small talk.

This blog is a way for me to share stories. This blog is made up of my stories, rants, and observations, as well as my photographs.

3 Responses »

  1. Excellent post!! When I hear this kind of trash talk I always want to say…read your Bible. Read the New Testament. Read and feel what Jesus, your Lord, said about transgender people. Nothing. He said nothing at all. Let this be your guide, ladies. Jesus wasn’t just a pretty face.

    On another note, what is cisgender? I’m not familiar with it.

    Love your posts. I’m home bound for a while caring for my partner who has Alzheimer’s so I like to “travel” with you.

    • https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender says, Cisgender (often abbreviated to simply cis) is a term for people whose experiences of their own gender agree with the sex they were assigned at birth. Cisgender may also be defined as those who have “a gender identity or perform a gender role society considers appropriate for one’s sex.”

      Thanks for your comment, Ford. I think many people who say they believe the Bible don’t read it. Or what they believe is what another human person says the Bible says, but don’t really know for themselves.

      Certainly many people who are against transgender people in restrooms don’t know any transgender folks (or at least think they don’t) and so just believe anything they are told and don’t educate themselves on the issues.

      Glad you are enjoying the travels. Glad you can come along.

  2. I am highly disturbed by this talk of transgenders in bathrooms. It is my opinion that they have been using the bathrooms all along, and no one has noticed because the ones in the ladies room look like ladies, and the ones in the gents, look like gents (genitals not included, necessarily.) However in ladies rooms one does not have occasion to see other ladies genitals, I assume if you’re using a urinal in a men’s room, you might catch a glimpse, but outright LOOKING is discouraged I believe. Those transgendered males in the men’s room who lack penises might possibly take care of their business in a stall. Just guessing, as I’ve rarely been inside a men’s room. So what is the fuss all about? Some jerks that didn’t have anything else to complain about this month!!

    It’s such a non-issue that it’s a waste of space and breath to write or talk about, isn’t it?

    How long is it going to take before people realize that transgender does not mean pedophile????
    Both species exist, but a statistical FEW would be both.

    I am finding your posts interesting and informative, and you showed more restraint under the circumstances than I might have!

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